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As a former human sexuality lecturer and the owner of K.C. Inc., I have picked up quite a bit of dating advice over the years, and there are two popular rules that I see tossed around all the time. They are: "Never send a first text message" and "Never call someone after 11 p.m." I want to debunk these rules because the first is generally a friend's suggestion and the second makes no sense at all, even in the context of sexual encounters.

New Rule: Never Call Someone after 11 P.M. If you want to act on sexual urges, the last thing you want to do is chase after a person at 11:01 p.m., right? It's like running after them when they're already asleep—not to mention a bit hungover, so they're probably less than desirable. And it's not like you can't make your way back to their apartment if they don't answer. They probably won't answer and it's okay, you can still sleep.

The other rule, "Never send a first text message," is ridiculous. It's just because some people are shy and don't want to put themselves out there, and therefore always send the "excuse me, is this your phone?" first text. True, it's really annoying, but if you send one really fun text that comes off as playful and flirty, you'll almost definitely get a text back, and then it's off to a good start.

And as for the new rule that never send the first text, that's just not true. It's just common sense, but it is weird when you think about it. With the exception of one extremely fun experience I had some time ago, I always send first.

First, I've usually had a few drinks and I'm driving my car, so I can text as much as I want and it's no big deal. Second, I can type and send as much text as I want while driving, so I just text because I'm not driving very fast. Third, in that one instance, the other person couldn't text back because she was at an event. But we ended up talking on the phone.

Now, after all of that very practical reasoning, I'm going to give you a few tips on sending some playful and flirty first text messages. Remember, texting doesn't mean you're flirting. Like any good flirting, you need to show interest in them first with some
You'll need a strong, positive message about yourself to let your date know what you're looking for. That message is called a "mission statement" and it's the basis of your entire approach.

You're not selling a product or a company. You're selling yourself. And at this point you should know all the things you're not. That makes for a stronger message.

And you're selling yourself to one other person. That's a lot to handle. It's also easy to burn yourself out on the pursuit of love. So, remember what we said about persistence?

Well, persistence is a good thing, but often it is too hard for the average guy. Everyone isn't made of steel, and you don't want to force your dating partners into those statements and pose awkward questions every time they hesitate.

So, go easy. Just ask one question and one question only. You can still be assertive, but be patient. With that in mind, here are five questions you should know the answer to before a date:

1. What's the worst thing you've done in the last year?

Look, this is a firm ground rule. In any relationship, no matter what it is, you are never out of line. So, if you have done something in the last year that you're not proud of, this is a good place to start. Most people hate these questions, and can't think of one instance where they would answer yes to this one.

No matter what happened, it can always be "fixed". In fact, if you're asking this question in the first place, then you probably need to spend more time getting to know your date. You may find that your date has a humongous story about themselves that you'd be shocked to hear.

2. Are you looking for a serious relationship?

Look, the answer to this question should pretty much be a given. No one, at some point in their life, is looking for a serious relationship. They've tried them and they don't work. Whether you want to call it old-fashioned or ignorant, casual flings aren't exciting anymore. If you're looking for love, you'll have to swallow a lot of non-traditional dating.

If you answer no to this question, be prepared to take a trip down the railroad track. People who are looking for a long-term relationship aren't the person you want to take out. They are

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